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Aug. 3rd, 2008 08:14 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
coolerbythelakei sometimes think about how i used to try going out on dates more. i've never really dated a lot, but when i came to chicago, i did try to date with some frequency. i wonder sometimes whether it's because of work, or if it's because it's somehow harder to get close to people, or to make the investment to meet new people... letting people in. i guess it just takes time and exposure to people. somehow dating seemed less serious back in the day, though. i think i went out on some pretty crappy dates. not really bad dates in the sense that the dude was a total asshole, but - wow - this is kind of boring. or we just didn't click.
my friend james met his dude through the internet, and i've heard him say more than once that the internet is "the gay way." i met bryan through the internet, and i met a guy who was on the main stage at second city through the internet (he thought parts of my profile were funny, but it turned out that i don't think he found me really attractive in the 'i like you like you' way. he was tall and cool, but the only time we could have ever gone out would have been on monday nights, or after 11pm.) but i've also met guys who we just didn't click in any meaningful way. it's easy with the tubes to start something, but it's also easy to let it go. it's both a blessing and a curse, i guess.
i've usually been the type of person who takes a while to warm up to a person, anyway, or i don't let myself fall too fast. or if i do fall fast, i don't spaz out toward the other person. maybe i'm saying that my flirting skills are not very well honed. i'm not sure if that's a bad thing. i think dudes may take my lack of super-flirtatiousness as lack of interest, but really it's just that i want to take the time to get to know the dude. maybe some of it is over-self-protection, though. a fear of putting myself out there. yeah, there's probably too much of that, too. :)
there's probably more that i could say, but this is enough for now.
my friend james met his dude through the internet, and i've heard him say more than once that the internet is "the gay way." i met bryan through the internet, and i met a guy who was on the main stage at second city through the internet (he thought parts of my profile were funny, but it turned out that i don't think he found me really attractive in the 'i like you like you' way. he was tall and cool, but the only time we could have ever gone out would have been on monday nights, or after 11pm.) but i've also met guys who we just didn't click in any meaningful way. it's easy with the tubes to start something, but it's also easy to let it go. it's both a blessing and a curse, i guess.
i've usually been the type of person who takes a while to warm up to a person, anyway, or i don't let myself fall too fast. or if i do fall fast, i don't spaz out toward the other person. maybe i'm saying that my flirting skills are not very well honed. i'm not sure if that's a bad thing. i think dudes may take my lack of super-flirtatiousness as lack of interest, but really it's just that i want to take the time to get to know the dude. maybe some of it is over-self-protection, though. a fear of putting myself out there. yeah, there's probably too much of that, too. :)
there's probably more that i could say, but this is enough for now.
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Date: 2008-08-07 02:13 pm (UTC)