a talk with my mom
Jul. 26th, 2012 05:03 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
coolerbythelakeMy Mom called last night and left me a message saying that she did something today, and that Dad said she should mention it to me. I was having dinner with a friend from ADP before seeing Batman, so I wasn't able to pick up. I texted my parents, and told them I would call them today.
I gave my Mom a call while I was on my lunch break, and she told me about a discussion that she had with a woman from her water aerobics class yesterday. The woman was saying something about Sally Ride, and how she liked what Sally did, but thought less of her when she found out she was a lesbian. My mom asked her why that mattered, that Sally Ride being a lesbian doesn't change what she did. I guess that the woman thought it was a choice, and that she has known people who used to be gay, but weren't gay anymore. My mom thought that it's likely that those people weren't ever gay to begin with.
I don't recall all of the other details, but she seemed more mature and matter-of-fact about it than I recall her talking about these things in the past. She seemed self-assured - that this anti-gay bigotry was clearly just this woman's issue, and wasn't something that was up for debate in her mind. Not forcing it on the other person, though - more just wondering how someone could still think that way.
My mom told me that, when people ask about her kids - if they are married - she tells them that one of her sons is gay, and that the other was just a bit slower with dating. I didn't know that she was so open about my being gay, so I'm glad that she told me. It was pretty cool to hear.
I gave my Mom a call while I was on my lunch break, and she told me about a discussion that she had with a woman from her water aerobics class yesterday. The woman was saying something about Sally Ride, and how she liked what Sally did, but thought less of her when she found out she was a lesbian. My mom asked her why that mattered, that Sally Ride being a lesbian doesn't change what she did. I guess that the woman thought it was a choice, and that she has known people who used to be gay, but weren't gay anymore. My mom thought that it's likely that those people weren't ever gay to begin with.
I don't recall all of the other details, but she seemed more mature and matter-of-fact about it than I recall her talking about these things in the past. She seemed self-assured - that this anti-gay bigotry was clearly just this woman's issue, and wasn't something that was up for debate in her mind. Not forcing it on the other person, though - more just wondering how someone could still think that way.
My mom told me that, when people ask about her kids - if they are married - she tells them that one of her sons is gay, and that the other was just a bit slower with dating. I didn't know that she was so open about my being gay, so I'm glad that she told me. It was pretty cool to hear.
